Grief and Hope
Ecclesiastes 7:2-4 -- Mourning Teaches Us About the Frailty of Life
2- It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men: and the living will lay it to his heart.
Grief can often lead people to ask questions about an afterlife. During these times, hope can be attained by building faith in God and the promises of an afterlife.
Anger and Pain
At first we may feel nothing or feel numb. This is the bodies way of helping us do the necessary things around us in our immediate surroundings. We may feel no real change in our immediate lives.
After the numbness wears off most people experience pain and/or anger. People may blame God, relatives, family, or even the deceased. The blaming helps the person to release their negative emotions.
In the state of anger and pain, people may feel a loss of hope. We may blame God and think that there is no hope of an afterlife. Some people erroneously conclude that a God that allows death isn't good. People may lose hope of the rewards and benefits of living right.
How to Help People in Anger or Pain -- Listen
You may worry about what the right thing to say is. However, there really isn't a right thing to say. Most people just need someone who can really listen to them. It helps the person release negative emotions by others just listening to them. Some people may want to be left alone for a time and then later need people greatly. It is important to stay in contact with people so that when the time is right they have someone close to talk to.
Romans 12: 15-16 -- Join others in Mourning by Getting on the Level With Them
15- Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
Let People Feel Their Grief
Don't try and take away someones grief. Instead we should embrace the suffering and feel the pain. This is what allows us to get over something and move on. When we try and avoid our negative emotions it only makes matters worse. It helps a lot to have a friend to feel the grief with. That is why it can be advantageous to get in a grief support group of people that are going through similar experiences.
Hope and Grief
After pain and grief and grieving, we may have lost a little hope and had our faith shaken. For some people, the opposite occurs and their faith is strengthened. For most of us, the faith and hope building come about near the middle to end of the grieving process. As we search for answers and meaning, we can become comforted through prayer and feel the hope that comes from learning. Many people learn deep spiritual things at these most difficult times. Your faith and hope for an afterlife can appropriately grow and your hope for having a good earth life can also grow. A new perspective on what is truly important in life can create more hope because life can be adjusted to new important perspectives.
Other Ways to Help -- Do Practical Things
Another way to help is to do the simple things of life. For example, weed the garden, take out the trash and run errands. You can do simple life things to help someone through the grieving process. People often break down in their spirit and mind
Grief and pain are inevitable parts of our lives. It is important to maintain perspective and to be a friend to others. When we listen to others, we help alleviate some of their suffering. We shouldn't try and help people evade the grieving process. Instead, we should get on their level and feel the pain with them. Once people have grieved long enough they can then get back into living their normal lives.
Hope is an important aspect of the grieving process. Hope should be maintained through prayer, scriptures, and from friends. The hope of an afterlife helps many to cope with their feelings. Newfound wisdom and perspectives can help create even more hope of living an abundant earth life; as well.